Whether you are a nudist or not, we all have those times when we all go out of our way to keep our bodies hidden from certain people. Why the heck do we do that? Okay, for me personally, not that my mom would really have a coronary and die from seeing every inch of me, but it wouldn't thrill her either, so out of respect I don't run around in a fully comfortable state when I'm with her. Back to best friends. Now, I am obviously a guy so I can't fully speak for the women folk but I have had females friends and roommates and think I have a decent idea that for the most part, gals are more open to being naked with each other than guys are. Unless you are playing sports and showering after games with your bros, there aren't things like sleepovers where guys do makeovers, and do each other's hair and try on clothes. Okay, maybe some do, but not usually. HA! Maybe more guys Should do things like that actually. Hmm. Anyway, women seem to be a lot more free about sharing their boobs and butts with each other. That's not always the case, but it does seem to happen a lot more often. If you've read my other blog posts, you well know I am all about accepting your body as it is and having to shame or fear. Own what you've got! So why the trepidation to let you bestie see you naked?? I think for me, one reason is, I don't really have a best buddy here locally at this time in my life. My buddies live elsewhere. The few I do have here, well, we are more acquaintances at this point because our friendships are still very young.
Would I have a problem being nude in front of any of them? Not at all. Would some or most of them freak out a bit? More than likely, yes. And that's not because they think a naked body is shameful or that I'm hideous, but it's just not their thing and they don't have the lifestyle beliefs that I have. Yet!
Over the years, I have not had much interaction with a lot of my cousins, due to great distances between us geographically. However, a couple of them, I have really connected with on pretty deep levels thanks to social media. One in particular was going through a really tough time a couple years back with her husband. He was ignoring her, paying her no attention. Refused to be intimate with her. She had zero self confidence, always saw herself as the ugly duckling and so on. I made it a mission to encourage her as I do with most anyone I meet who thinks similarly, and that is that YOU are perfect just the way you are! Be confident in yourself, embracing the body you have, loving you for you. After a couple of months of encouraging, boosting her confidence, one day she asked me something. She sent me a photo of herself and asked, "what is wrong with me?" My reply to her again, was, "absolutely nothing." Now I did not need to see her nude to know she is perfectly fine as she is, but for her, she needed that affirmation. So yea, for some people, I can understand there are those issues that can hinder being comfortable and confident with your own self.
What are best friends? Best friends are those persons with whom you can share anything and they will not judge you, put you down, but who will also kick your butt and tell you like it is, not sugar coating things Just to make you feel good. They are the most loyal and straight up people out there. The things best friends share are priceless. There are secrets you each hold about one another, stories of things you have been through together, times of trials and of victory. Best friends, Real best friends are among the greatest of all gifts. These are people you will drink from the same Coke with, eat the same burger with. Wear each others clothes, shoes, shoot, even share a toothbrush if you have to.
Let me ask you guys, how many of your best closest friends have you been nude with? What was the situation? How did it go? Did either of you feel awkward during or after? Did it change anything between you? I think these are all valid questions and honestly, I would Love to hear your stories and experiences. Now, to MY best friends, and there are some of both genders, To those who have not had this experience with me yet, fair warning, it's coming! Next time we see each other, if there's a way, it's gonna happen, and I hope you'll join me. Even if it's just once. There is something intimate about becoming vulnerable that deepens friendships and relationships. Yes it is just skin and yes there is nothing magical or sexual about it, but for some strange reason in the society we have had to grow up in, maybe being taboo, it does make for a special bond.
So, the next time you are with your buddy, or your gal pal and you're shopping, trying on outfits, or cleaning up after playing football, don't stress about keeping your bits all under wraps. Let em loose! It really is no big deal. After all, a real friend should accept you for you, and that includes all of you, right??
I wanted to share these two links because I think they are pretty great. One is of a couple women who are best friends and shows them being naked together for the very first time. The other is a couple of guys doing the same. The reactions are priceless. I really hope that after seeing these video clips of real people in real situations, your mind will be eased and maybe that door will be opened. There is nothing better than deepening a legit friendship. And besides, you never know, you may end up with a new nudist buddy on your hands! How cool would that be!!
To wrap this up, whether you can bring this topic up in person, in an email, txt or a chat message, have that conversation. Don't be afraid to talk about anything. These are your BEST friends, and best friends can literally talk about everything! Be well this week, take care of yourself and others and enjoy some time naked!! You'll feel much better for it!
Brilliant! Thanks
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